Hello again! I think we’ve already spent enough time talking about defining goals so I decided to change the subject a little bit. Today I’ll be writing about the different stages our life goes through. I don’t mean infancy, childhood, adulthood and so on because these are obviously not related to your True Self (do you remember this guy?), these are just a natural consequence of time passing. The stages I’m going to write about are the stages you can choose to be in, which affect your choices and emotions.
From my experience, I don’t think we can spend our life only in one of these stages. I think everyone goes through all of them without any particular order. Please read further and comment at the end of the post. I’d like to know your thoughts about this and if you fit in any of them.
Stage 1 – Confidence
This is somewhere good to be. It feels good! You wake up believing you can do anything and perhaps you believe you can even do it better than everyone else. If you practice some sport you put all your energies into it because you feel unbeatable. If you are good at school you’ll study harder and harder so that you get the very best grade. This applies even for the smallest things you can think of even if it’s getting to the end of a computer game in a time record. Yes this is definitely somewhere we like to be.
However, like most things, it has its cons. This can turn into a very lonely stage if you’re overconfident so that no one can stand near you. Also, during this stage you tend to forget that you also fail and, when you do, two things might happen:
- · You ignore your failure or you just don’t realize you did it which, in my opinion, is the most dumb thing to do;
- · You realize you’re not so good as you thought you were. If you realized this then you aren’t in Stage 1 anymore.
Let’s go on to Stage 2. Hang in there!
Stage 2 – Loneliness
This is the worst stage to be. Feeling lonely is surely the worst feeling in the world. It’s worst than feeling pain because you also feel that no one cares about your pain. Franz Kafka which was a very renowned writer once wrote that worse than being alone is being alone among others… and I agree with him.
This is surely a very sad stage to be in but one must take this chance to think about life.
“What did I do wrong?”
“How can I do better?”
“Where do I want to go?”
Answering these questions is the first step to get out of the sad stage 2. Doing something about it is the next and last step. Depending on your actions and choices you may get to stage 3.
Stage 3 – Love
Eventually everyone gets here because no one can handle this world alone. One surely can use some extra help on that task. It doesn’t matter if you’re the confident type or the lonely type of person because you can’t resist love! At least I hope you can’t because I think that is where our true humanity lies. Kissing someone, caring for someone, giving birth to a new person is the only thing which kept us going. We may have our jobs and our daily routines but at the end of the day we wish for someone to hold us.
Sometimes we tend to forget how Love is important and we mistreat our parents or our friends or our girlfriend/boyfriend. But I’m sure you’d miss them if they walked away from you. At least I do…
So… after all, in which stage are you?
Kind regards,
Pedro